I tried to call Leif. I tried to text message him. I sent him email. At first, I wasn't terribly worried. I thought perhaps he was ill, or asleep with a hangover....not like him, but I wasn't ready to think something terrible had happened to him. Maybe he had gone to see the woman he was interested in, in Orlando. He had planned to see her earlier in the week .
As the afternoon wore on, I started wondering if something had happened to him.. I worried that he had a motorcycle accident and might be in a hospital either in Tampa or on the way or, or in, Orlando. I started calling hospitals all through this area. No one had a patient by his name.
Leif was an excellent driver...wanted to be a race car driver, and that was the problem. He drove like a bat our of hell, to use my mother's expression. I wondered if he had been arrested for speeding or some other offense and was in jail but didn't want us to know. The county arrest records are online. I checked them. Nothing
I continued to call him, text him, email him. Nothing. I wondered if he was very ill and wasn't responding. But by evening, surely he would have responded to multiple messages or calls from his mother. He had never ignored communications from me before.
He was a grown man. He was entitled to his privacy and his own business. I didn't want to anger or embarrass him by showing up at his door with all my fears, and yet, I was becoming more and more afraid.
Peter thought we should wait until morning and if we still hadn't heard from him, drive to Tampa. We heard nothing. I put on my pink "Worrier's Manifesto" shirt, one I had designed as a joke, thinking that if we found him, I would try to make light of my concerns. But Peter was too nervous to drive, so I drove the half hour to his Tampa apartment.
On the way, we talked about what could have happened. We agreed that if we got there and one of his vehicles (he had a motorcycle and a Mazda RX8) was gone, he must have left. If both were there, he had to be in his apartment.
As we drove up, we could see both vehicles were there and didn't know whether to be relieved or more scared. If he was there and okay, would he be upset with us for showing up? But there was no answer when we knocked and rang the doorbell, over and over.
Finally, I went to the apartment building office and explained our fears, that something had happened to him, that we were his parents, that we wanted them to let us into his apartment. I was afraid they would refuse, but the young woman escorted us back to the building and used her master key to let us in, asking us to let her know what we found.
We came in and called his name. No answer. We passed the doorway to the bathroom and bedroom, and saw that he was not in either of them. We came into the dining area where he had his computers set up. Everything on his desk was neat. His billfold and keys were there.
And then we looked to the right into the kitchen. There he was in a pool of blood, brains and bones on the floor, slumped against the lower end of the refrigerator door, fingers turning blue. The gun was on the kitchen counter.
I will spare you our emotional reaction. I still want to cry out, "NO, NO, NO!!!
I knew we could not touch anything. At that point, I felt certain it was a suicide, but the police and coroner would want to determine that. It was potentially a crime scene. I called 911. Then I found his iPhone and used it to call his insurance company about his vehicles and belongings and report his death. We waited for the police.
When they came, we were told we could not stay inside while they did their investigation. The detective (a woman) was working the scene and she had others with her that went to neighbors to see if they had heard anything or knew what happened. When she finished, she told us she thought it was an accidental shooting. She had worried about the possibility of a murder or homicide, but the evidence did not support that. Two men came and brought Leif out in a body bag. I still wonder how they got his heavy, large body into that body bag, with the mess on the kitchen floor, and down from the second floor. I wanted them to open the body back so I could hold him and say goodbye. None of them wanted to do it. They didn't think it was good for me to see him, and I knew it wasn't good for Peter, so I didn't fight them about it, and I have regretted it ever since. I just put my hands on the body bag and that was as close as I got to holding my son. They took him to the county morgue. It was a violent death and required an autopsy.
They told us we needed to take all his valuables out of the apartment right then, and take his vehicles, or they feared they would be stolen. We went back inside and started gathering things, and realizing we could not drive his vehicles to our house. Neither of us was capable of driving a motorcycle. His car was a stick shift. I can't drive one of those, and Peter hadn't driven one in years, and was in no shape to drive. I called a neighbor who had a pickup truck and asked if one of them knew how to drive a stick shift. To this day, I don't know what their plans were for that day, but they dropped them and came. They helped us take belongings and drove his car to our house. We found someone with a trailer to load up the motorcycle and drive it to our place. We took the rest of his keys, went to the apartment office and told them about his death, what had transpired with the police, and that we would be back to clean out his apartment.
We were in shock. Luckily we made it home safely. On the way, we called my mother. Through the evening, we were calling family members to let them know.
It was the saddest, most horrifying day of my life.
I miss him every day of my life.
I never wore my pink "Worrier's Anonymous" shirt again. I couldn't bear it.
The photo above was taken almost exactly 28 years ago, in April 1993. He is dressed as the "GQ Pirate" for the Society for Creative Anachronism.
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