I love this photo because it shows the devilish grin and dimples Leif had, and really happy smiling eyes, something I saw less frequently in the past two years. This is how I want to remember him.
This is actually the way I saw him last, about 2004. It's weird to speak of such a good friend in past-tense. Not just weird, it feels alien.
I met Leif in 2001 at the KSU Computer store where we were both employed. The computer store was a dim and humorless place at first, but then came Leif, a bright spot. I was intimidated at first since he was such a rambunctious person... full of ideas and interesting facts, philosophies, and an overwhelming presence that was almost bigger than the tiny alcove the store was tucked into.
He quickly became the most interesting person in the store to talk to and work with, and soon my boyfriend at the time was coming up to the store specifically to talk to him as well. He spawned a sort of viral effect... whereas one person could meet him, then tell other people about this guy 'you just have to meet', and a sort of legend develops.
He invited my boyfriend and I to join him in his beloved RPG (Cyberpunk, I think), though the game never started because in four hours of what was to be character planning and gameplay we all ended up just talking about something. In another non-starting gaming session, he introduced us to a couple more people who became close friends of mine.
He was always a great person to have along at Fast Eddy's for a game of pool, a few pitchers of beer, and good conversation. :-)
As time went on and the tasks of completing school, working, and surviving took over, I drifted out of touch with him. The last time I saw him was in the summer of 2004, when he invited me out of my cave-like existence for a dinner and chat.
I do regret that I didn't spend more time, but I cherish the time I did have. He was an amazing person.
How little an obituary really says, summing up a life of hope, dreams, sadness, accomplishments, disappointments, love, work, family, friends, creativeness, defeat, with a formula of birth, family, work, death. Some papers will allow longer, but still inadequate, obituaries, for a price. Here is Leif's "standard" obituary, but I hope this blog will fill out, even in small snippets, more of the child, man, son, brother, uncle, comrade-in-arms, and passionate believer in the Constitution of the United States that he was. - Jerri ------------------------ Leif A. Garretson, 33, died April 9, 2008 at his home in Tampa, Florida of a self-inflicted gunshot wound.
Leif, known to many as "Alex," was born at Fort Riley, Kansas on January 28, 1975 and lived in Manhattan until 1976, when his family moved to several places around the world due to his father's military service, returning to Manhattan in 1992. He was a 1993 graduate of Manhattan High School and a 2003 graduate of Kansas State University. He was an avid member of the Society for Creative Anachronism in Manhattan, where he could often be seen in medieval armor on Sundays in the City Park.
Leif was a Medicare Customer Service Agent for Humana and a retired, disabled military veteran who served his country as an army machine gunner and certified armorer from January 1998 to May 2001, with a tour of peacekeeping duty in Bosnia.
He retired with the rank of Specialist 4 and received the NATO Medal, the Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal, the Army Service Ribbon, the Expert Marksmanship Qualification Badge with Machine Gun Bar, Sharpshooter Marksmanship Qualification Badge with Pistol Bar, Marksman Marksmanship Qualification Badge with Rifle Bar, Marksman Marksmanship Badge with Grenade bar, and several brigade and unit awards.
He is survived by his parents, Peter W. and Geraldine (Jerri) Garretson of Sun City Center Florida (formerly of Manhattan, Kansas); his brother and sister-in-law, Lieutenant Colonel, U.S. Air Force, Peter A. Garretson and his wife, Darlene, of Washington, DC; his maternal grandmother, Marion S. Kundiger of Sun City Center, Florida (also formerly of Manhattan, Kansas), eight first cousins, two nieces and one nephew.
On April 29, 2008, Leif was inurned with full military honors at the Bay Pines National Cemetery in Bay Pines, Florida, and later that afternoon a memorial service was performed at the Unitarian Universalist Church of St. Petersburg, Florida, with Rev. Manish Mithra officiating. Leif's family members and friends spoke in his memory.
In lieu of flowers, the family asks that any contributions in Leif's honor be made to organizations assisting disabled veterans and requests that you thank service members you see in uniform for their patriotism and service to our country.
This is actually the way I saw him last, about 2004. It's weird to speak of such a good friend in past-tense. Not just weird, it feels alien.
ReplyDeleteI met Leif in 2001 at the KSU Computer store where we were both employed. The computer store was a dim and humorless place at first, but then came Leif, a bright spot. I was intimidated at first since he was such a rambunctious person... full of ideas and interesting facts, philosophies, and an overwhelming presence that was almost bigger than the tiny alcove the store was tucked into.
He quickly became the most interesting person in the store to talk to and work with, and soon my boyfriend at the time was coming up to the store specifically to talk to him as well. He spawned a sort of viral effect... whereas one person could meet him, then tell other people about this guy 'you just have to meet', and a sort of legend develops.
He invited my boyfriend and I to join him in his beloved RPG (Cyberpunk, I think), though the game never started because in four hours of what was to be character planning and gameplay we all ended up just talking about something. In another non-starting gaming session, he introduced us to a couple more people who became close friends of mine.
He was always a great person to have along at Fast Eddy's for a game of pool, a few pitchers of beer, and good conversation. :-)
As time went on and the tasks of completing school, working, and surviving took over, I drifted out of touch with him. The last time I saw him was in the summer of 2004, when he invited me out of my cave-like existence for a dinner and chat.
I do regret that I didn't spend more time, but I cherish the time I did have. He was an amazing person.